Self-Care, According to the S.W. Moms
In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked Team S. Dubs to tell us what their moms have taught them about self-care. Ahead are their answers.
Lizzy Ott, Executive Coordinator
I have a goddess for a mom. My mom has taught me that happiness is a choice. She’s shown me the artistry involved with transforming obstacles into opportunities for growth. She’s shown me the unbelievably inspiring gracefulness involved with grabbing your life by the reins, and the paradox of ultimate selflessness in making a decision for yourself. She’s taught me that learning is truly a life-long process, and that no one has the power to define you. She’s taught me that by approaching every situation with kindness, intention, and positivity, you put out an energy of abundance that has no other option but to multiply.
I think we all come to a point when we realize there’s no “miracle product.” We shed that oddly demeaning and elusive idea of perfection in exchange for a more meaningful form of beauty that’s ignited from the inside. My mom helped me to realize what true radiance means. Clear skin and flowing locks come from living your life with love. My mom has shown me that beauty is synonymous with expressing gratitude, developing your understanding of the world, and surrounding yourself with kindness.
Adina Grigore, Founder & CEO
When my sister and I were little, my mom really prioritized having fun. We were always poolside, at the beach, at Disney, or playing in our yard. (Can you tell I’m from Florida?) She never stopped to worry about little details, but she also didn’t seem to worry about big details, like money. I think this translated into a really deep understanding of what matters in life and what doesn’t. My sister and I both don’t care that much about superficial things, and I think of self-care as figuring out what makes you healthy and happy and doing it.
Rachel Shapiro, Sales Director
It’s almost unavoidable to be a teenager without experiencing body image issues. Whenever I’d complain about a body part not being thin, skinny, or flat enough, my mother would chime in and tell me that I’m “not a chicken.” She’d continue by stressing that we’re not defined by our pieces (legs, thighs, or breasts), but we’re whole, unique individuals. She’d then throw in how lucky I am that my “parts” work (e.g., my legs do their job, they’re strong, and get me places). She’d wrap up her monologue by telling me to wear sunscreen (I’d be sorry), stop biting my nails (did I know how filthy my fingers were?) and quit pulling split ends (I looked like a monkey). I’m 28 years old, and just last week she reminded me to floss (didn’t I know that gum disease runs in the family?). What’s funny is, she’s right. About all of it. And I will, without a doubt, pass these sentiments and life lessons along to my chicks.
Rachel and her mom
Elana Bowsher, VP Business Development
My mom is a social worker, so she spends her entire week taking care of other people. She always uses Sundays to do one thing just for herself. It’s usually something small, like getting a manicure/pedicure or baking/cooking (which relaxes her). I’ve totally adopted her ritual, which mostly translates into me ordering sushi and eating it in bed (ew) while I watch Keeping Up with the Kardashians. It’s the best way to end one week and begin another, and it motivates me to set goals and work super hard the following week.
Brigetta Jimenez, Art Director
Some of my best memories have been watching my mom putting on her makeup. The smell of her perfume, hair curled under her chin then pushed back. It was one of the very few times where she wasn’t working two jobs, or cleaning or cooking. She was just being true to herself as a woman. Now that I am a mom, I don’t really take the time to do much for myself. Or wear makeup. But I do enjoy the smell of good perfume.
Brigetta, now a mama herself, with her beautiful baby boy Caleb
Julia Sweeney, Marketing Director
My mom has had a tough life. She didn’t have the happiest childhood and lost a child nearly 20 years ago. While these situations could have defeated her, they’ve given her this amazing sense of perspective. This perspective informs her entire life – including the way she takes care of herself. She lives, as she calls it, a “simple life”; it’s about family, spending time in nature, doing artwork, and loving her dogs. It’s about de-complicating things and operating a pace that might be slower than most – because life is hard, so why not? By living simply, I think my mom has found a sense of peace. Living simply is how she takes care of herself. In my own life, I’ve realized that I feel happiest and most cared for when I retreat into the simple: A good meal. Coffee and the morning newspaper. An afternoon in the woods with my dog. I’ll take these things over a facial or massage any day of the week.
Julia’s mom with Julia and her brother Jeff